How to Know if you should Marry him/her before going into that marriage by Pastor Mildred Okonkwo

Marriage is beautiful. I want to talk to the singles and also those who are in a relationship or about to be married. You need to understand that marriage is good.  However, you and your partner need to be good to experience the goodness of marriage. I learnt this principle of making good marriage early enough in my life. This is because I was a very introverted person so my head was always in a book. I was always reading.

One day, my mum asked me to fry eggs. In a bid to rush the cooking and go back to my book, I ended up damaging the cooking. What I’m trying to say is that two good eggs make an omelet. No matter how good an egg is, if the other one isn’t good, then it will spoil the omelet. This is to say that If you are good as a person and you marry a bad person, or an ungodly person, you will be frustrated. It is very important that you learn about marriage before you get into marriage.

It is the quality of people in marriage that determines the outcome of the marriage. Remember it is what you invest, that you harvest.

3 things you should consider before considering marriage.

how to know if you should marry him\her before going into that marriage
Beautiful Pastor Mildred and Pastor Kingsley

There are 3 things you should consider before taking your relationship to the next level. These factors are important if you must move your relationship from courtship to marriage. They are classified as three W’s. They include the following:

1. Does the relationship Leading to marriage worship God?

I know this sound odd. You are expecting to hear stuffs like does he/she love or care for me. If you are in a relationship and it doesn’t make you a better Christian, then you should end that relationship before it leads to marriage. It is quite unfortunate that people today do not believe any longer that God is involved in your marriage. But this is not true, because if we are God’s children, then God is interested in who we marry or who we spend the rest of our lives with.

My Marriage Relationship Experience

I actually broke up with my relationship of over five years before i met pastor K. Our God is not just  paying attention to who you marry but also what he wants to do with your destiny. So, you need to marry someone who will allow you fulfill God’s purpose for your life.

Sometimes, you need to ask Jehovah to bypass your emotions and give you what is best for you. So, the first thing is that God is involved in your everyday life. If God is paying heed to something as  little as your sleep, why do you think that he will not be concerned in your marriage?

Romans 12 vs 1

“Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God — this is your true and proper worship

Every family should have a family vision. When someone says they want to marry you, you should ask for the reason they want to marry you beyond love. There should be something you are coming into their life to help them with. If your relationship with your potential partner reduces your divinity, then you should summon courage and end things.

1. Is the relationship working?

Courtship is simply marriage rehearsal without the sex. Marriage doesn’t change anyone. If the man is threatening to beat you in courtship, then he will do so in marriage. A man who is cheating now, will be unfaithful in marriage. Is your relationship not working now, it won’t in marriage.


Ephesians 5 vs 33

“ However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [[a]that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and [b]that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly].


3. Is the potential marriage relationship worth it?

Don’t be in a relationship just to change your name. Marriage should make you better. If you want to be sure of moving your courtship to the next level, make sure it is worth it. Are you the one who always put aside your dream for your partner, then you should check that relationship before taking it to the next level.


If you must move your relationship to the next level, then you must consider these three factors before saying I do to your partner. These guidelines are prerogative and very vital to the success of your marriage relationship. Does your relationship worship God, is the relationship working and is it working. If you consider these very well, then you are on the right path to having a beautiful and successful married life.


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